The End of Silence

Silent sunday, silent mind

It’s Sunday today, and I could stay quite long in bed before I got up. Even before I woke up completely, I could hear it. The sound of Sunday.

Yes, it’s different on Sundays.  A much quieter sound. The sounds from the highway are far weaker. There are no trailers that idles in front of shops nearby. The drilling machines from construction projects in the neighborhood have stopped. There are no bangs from nailguns when the neighbor extends his house. The street isn’t full of guest parked cars to the business people who take the subway to downtown. The house is quiet. Everyone is sleeping or lying in their beds, – just enjoying the peacefulness that soon will be broken.

                      Quiet only for some minutes more, photo Oslo in Winter.com

“Where have all the silence gone?”

A popular author in my country, Frid Ingulstad wrote in the newspaper Aftenposten, 10, December 2008:    “I thought back in time. //: we had something called Sunday silence, and it was greatly respected. Sunday was a day of rest in which work and noisy activities were avoided. The starting point was the fourth commandment about keeping the Sabbath day holy. Today its the environment that is in focus. To reduce noise levels both at work and in homes is an important part of our environmental work.”

We really had Sunday Silence some twenty years ago, in my country. We did’t pay much attention to it, however. You don’t really pay attention to something not being there, when that’s the rule on Sundays.  Until you had guests from America telling you that  that was very special for them. That natural freedom from penetrating sounds and daily chores, that you took for granted.  On Sundays.
But this freedom from noise and all kinds of work in the house, meant that we always had the sunday to land our stress and collect ourselves. Restore our emptied energy, so to speak, and our courage to move on for a new week.
Ducklings by the sea, with the sunlight  trying to penetrate the clouds, photo janeriwaa

Walking into the woods to recapture the  silence.

Last Sunday one of my sons wanted me to take a walk with him in the woods. He was nervous, he said, for his exam the next day, and needed to vent his head. I was occupied with an overview of the prosperity for the richest in the world, in relation to the poor. Therefore, I did not really fancy this setback. Nevertheless, I said yes, both for his sake and the fact that once you get out, the Sunday trip*  is usually an enjoyable experience for both body and mind.         (* footnote on the history of sunday walks at the end of article)

Breaking the silence

My son and I started down the trail walking rather fast. It wasn’t long before I noticed him relaxing. He commented the fresh air, the beautiful lake, and the great atmosphere out there. I couldn’t more agree.

 Ice skating on the lake, photo janeriwaa

Not long after, however, I was at it again, talking about my concern about the world’s distribution of wealth. Especially the future for all of us, if the richest became richer now, when already only 8 people owned more than half the world’s wealth. That would be the end of democracy. We would get oligarchy, if we hadn’t already got it. A form of government with a few rich who ruled the world as it suited them. While the rest of us, excess of 7.3 billion people had to dance for them.

On the path around the lake, photo janeriwaa

I noticed that my son was tense again. – Can’t you stop talking about stuff like this when we are out hiking, he said. I saw that he was upset. I had broken the silence he needed in contact with nature to regain the confidence in himself and the impending exam.

I had shrunk his necessary space for quiet contemplation and reflection, needed to catch up again. This is a psychological space where large everyday concerns can be small, and small everyday pleasures large.

An outlet of a brook, photo janeriwaa

Soundaholics addicted to sounds.

Maybe we have all become more and more dependent on a constant sound surrounding us. Perhaps we have become ,soundaholics needing rehab? Just as we have become addicted to having Iphones and smartphones available wherever we go.

More and more people wear earphones or plugs in their ears. We need to be online all the time, if not to be left behind. But what is it that is really left behind? Isn’t it actually, the freedom to just be present here and now, inside or outdoors. Places where the only thing we can hear is the blood roaring in our ears, the heart beating, and the wind that blows in the treetops. Or the free floating thoughts, flying like birds across the water.

    Sun setting at the seaside this sunday, photo janeriwaa

Footnote on Sunday walks:
  • In our country, it’s a national occupation going for a Sunday walk together. The bourgeoisie in the major cities have been doing it for over a century. Inspired by the Norwegian polar explorers, especially Frithjof Nansen, which spread the idea of ​​ the salutary effects of outdoor recreation, – we all believe that it is very healthy.Gradually this trend has spread to ever more sectors of the population, both young and old. (This has of course also something to do with the fact that industrial work and ordinary physical labour has been much reduced the last decades)            A Sunday walk in one of the the city parks, unknown source

    I’ve tried to find statistics on this, but I can’t say it seems reliable enough for just Sunday walks. The trend in a survey of living conditions in Norway from 2016, which covers the period from 2001 to 2016, indicates that we are both exercising, jogging and walking increasingly more. In 2001, 66% of the population over 16 years, had exercised or been walking more than once a week. In 2016 this percentage had risen to 83% of the population. (Central Bureau of Statistics, Survey of Living Conditions 2016)

      Sunday is a day to teach the children to use skis in winter,photo janeriwaa

    As long as I’ve lived, Norwegians in the metropolitan area have walked on some sort of a Sunday trip. Today’s walk around one of our beautiful lakes was no exception.

    “To go for a walk two or three times a week can do wonders for your body, and is the best protection against cardiovascular disease. The activity accelerates metabolism, helps reduce blood pressure, keeps blood sugar in balance and strengthens bones. “ That is what fitness and nutritionist Kjersti Bjerkan at Ullevål Hospital claims. (VG. 9.sept 1998)

                                       “This is how you do it guys”, photo by Skiforeningen

    Often this “outdoor expedition” is the only way to get back some of that Sunday silence that lingered over the city earlier. Then it was even possible to get bored if you had talent for it. And for me this silence seems to be even as important a factor for our health as the physical exercise.

  • Frontpage photo by janeriwaa

Greedy and needy

Greed – excessive or reprehensible acquisitiveness: “Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more” (Ephesians 4:19).

Game or reality

When I was a boy between ten and fourteen years old, I just loved the board game Monopoly. I did not take long after a rather modest phase, before I understood the game’s underlying and ruthless rule; – the more you buy of the available streets, and get a flush of two or three of the same kind, the higher the possibility is that you can build enough houses and hotels on the estates, to ruin your playmates when they are stranded there.

  The Monopoly board game

For that reason, I always borrowed from the bank, many times my starting capital, when I had the chance to purchase estates. I was reckless and self-centered in my gaming, and very often won the Monopoly game, because I had no limits in my desire for more and more streets.

Greed in America

This was only a game however, and I was young and immature. But its seems to me that in the 1980’s and 90’s, and in 2007 and 2008, that ruthless game was realized in its full potential in real financial America.

In their book with the elusive title; “Greed is Good”, Daniel Murphy and Matthew Robinson (2009), cites Gordon Gekko from the 1987 movie “Wall Street”:

 Michael Douglas as the greedy Gordon Gekko in the movie “Wall Street”

“Greed is good. Greed is right. Greed works. Greed clarifies. Greed cuts through and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit. Greed in all of it’s forms, greed for life, for money, for knowledge, has marked the upward surge of mankind. And greed, you mark my words, will not only save Teldar Paper, but that other malfunctioning corporation called USA.” (Gordon Gekko)

Greed embedded in the American dream.

Robinson & Murphy link the deviant and criminal acts of American Corporate Business life to the concept of greed embedded in the American Dream. The American dream means by their definition; – to achieve more wealth than you already have, regardless of much you have. Here the individual’s striving for a better and more prosperous material life, go hand in hand with a general American notion that there are no limits to how wealthy you can be, if you put all your energy into it.

  Liberty at least for all Financial and corporate business people in America

At the same time, corporate life, institutions and laws seem to be built on a culture that promote selfish, competitive and even reckless behavior if you want to succeed in the game.

 Earlier the American dream was mostly realized by the white population. Nowadays not even the white population can achieve that dream.

Business comes before anything else.

The authors are pointing at the fact that the US. remains the only advanced industrial democracy without paid family leave, national health care , and without an extended family vacation policy. (That was written before “Obamacare” – now to be ended by Trump)      This is so, even though the US. ranks number 2 among 34 countries, in terms of the importance of the family.

Why is that? Robinson and Murphy claim that the needs of business are given precedence over everything else in the American institutional order. In other words, – material greed before human needs.

And this is a crucial point. Greed goes far beyond human needs, because greed is: “A selfish and excessive desire for more of something (as money) than is needed. A continual lust for more.” (Press Release Point, September 25th, 2016)

The Financial collapse on Wall Street 2008.

We have now experienced that this greed was the main contributor to the big 2008 Wall Street crash that the US. and Europe still strive to overcome the negative effects of. Not primarily the financial sector and its money makers are struggling to overcome the recession. The crisis primarily hit ordinary people, the vanishing middle class, public welfare, and stately institutions that had very little to do with the crash.

Financial Genius or Dangerous greedy Crook. Dick Fuld, the top leader of Lehman Brothers that started the world’s economic crash in 2008.

The top people, however, that had ordered the creation of the large and complex portfolio of unsecure loans and toxic assets, usually pulled out their own investments days before the crash. As for Lehman Brothers who started the crisis, Lawrence G. McDonald, the co-author of the New York Times best-seller “A Colossal Failure of Common Sense”, writes: “At Lehman, there were 24,992 people making money and eight guys losing it.” In other words, most of the staff were operating seriously while the top leaders behaved scrupulous.

Greed , capitalism and human needs.

Greed is not an American phenomenon, alone. In a continuum from normal pursuit for happiness and economic growth, via the desire for even more, greed is at the extreme end of the continuum, comparable to gluttony, and insatiable lust. We find it all over the world, most often however attached to global capitalism.

Humans have like animals an inbred or genetic disposition for self-preservation. That’s organic life, sustaining itself to a certain extent, in any environment. For species on top of the neuropsychological hierarchy, however, for primates like chimpanzees and human babies, the psychological environment plays a much more important role in sustaining life.

The initial and needed “lust for life” that is satisfied when parents or caretakers meet the child with loving care, is necessary to nourish the child physically and psychically.

Joy Of Life Lust For Life Girl Woman Left Out

When this love together with physical nourishment is lacking early in life, the physical health of the child will most likely be impaired.

There is a theory in dynamic psychology, that serious neglect, will not only predispose for mental illness. It will also most likely transform psychologically into unsaturated hunger for love, power, sex, fame or money.

Greed as compensation for neglect and lack of recognition.

The initial survival instincts in the pursuit for self-preservation, are very far from this state of all-compassing unsatiable hunger at the extreme end of the continuum from need to greed.  Such trans-formed psychological urges has nothing to do with  meeting needs. Here it’s  the basic human longing for recognition that has run amok. This most likely occurs when unconditoned love and recognition  have been lacking in the parental relation.

Very often this goes hand in hand with a family culture were recognition has been conditioned by economic success.

Psychologists like Benjamin(1988) and Schibbye(1992) have anchored their relational psychodynamic psychology on the foundations of Hegel’s philosophy of recognition and dialectics.

The desire for much more than necessary must not be gratified by the child’s parents, even though the desire should be recognized as ok. It is the yielding to the craving or desire that is wrong, not the desire in itself.

In my understanding of Hegel, it seems that the ubiquitous “human desire”, or “human craving”, must face opposition. If not the desire or craving will grow to infinity. And this opposition or unwillingness to gratify the desire for more, when basic physiological and psychological needs are met, – is a main contributor to psychological growth. Above  all it is crucial for developing the ability to perceive and empathize with the other.

           The capacity for feeling with the other. Empathy.

If any desire and requirement are fulfilled when growing up, and every urge achieve gratification, the person will paradoxically never feel gratified. And here we have the final product; – greed!

Greed and distribution of worlds wealth.

18 January 2016 the Oxfam report found that the 62 richest in the world had as much money as half the world’s population “- The explosive growth in their wealth has come at the expense of the poorest.”

There is no trickle down from rich to poor. And one year later, in January this year 2017, the British “Guardian” writes that; “The world’s eight richest billionaires control the same wealth between them as the poorest half of the globe’s population. In my opinion this is a dangerous demonstration of limitless greed.

Even the world’s Economic Forum(WEF) in Davos this year, addressed it as a big global problem.  In view of the gradual deregulation of the financial system since Reagan and Thatcher, there has been no real opposition to counteract the greed inherent in the game of globalized economy. In a psychological perspective to my opinion, there has not been any real “parental supervision” of the financial sector from neither the states or governments. There were little or no resistance to the extreme manifestations  of this sector’s financial transactions.

This has resulted in a situation where the need for earning money, have grown to infinity, and reached the stage of insatiable greed.

Greed is number three of the deadly sins.

But before greed kills the billionaires in their helicopters, swimming pools and yachts, it is most deadly for the poorest half of the population. Even the earlier privileged and now the less fortunate middle class, is vanishing by the hour in the US. And that fact is, as the American professor of Economy Robert Reich states, – a national disaster.

Psychological Universe would therefore recommend the financial sector to release their “capacity for greed”, in the game of Monopoly, instead of on the real life national and international financial arenas.

Even though we may not like the effects of capitalism, there has been versions of it with less uncontrolled greed, and more responsibility for the employees and the community.